Mothers-daughter relationship

The establishing of a good relationship between mother and daughter if began in infancy and childhood will have a firm foundation which is of value in later years. As a mother meets the needs of the infant and then the toddler, her own needs for love and affirmation are also met in the reciprocal love of the child. This is why the role of mothering should not be left to maids or child-minders. The child must feel and know who their mother is and be sure of her affection and dependability.


Mothers need to portray a positive role about their femininity and not complain or demean the role of women in the home. Daughters need to understand that to be female is a privilege and joy and not a 'curse' as is so often conveyed in some Asian cultures. The best person and the strongest example of feminine dignity and worth is the mother. When she is able to relate to her daughter with genuine love and compassion, she carries into the relationship a sense of worth and the desire to be emulated.


The relationship between mothers and daughters should be an especially beautiful one where the mother sees herself reflected in the person of her daughter and therefore, not only understands her better but enjoys her more. Of course, daughters may also take after their fathers and this is also why a good affirming attitude between spouses is central to the foundation of all family relationships. When girls are growing up they naturally want to have 'girl talk' with someone they trust and look up to. Who better than her mother? But the bonding has to have taken place earlier for the teenager to come to her mother with her questions and problems and it is this bonding at which parents need to work at when they start to have a family. Too often, parents find that they want to befriend their children but they have not established the bonds of trust and mutual respect.


Respect has to be earned through a life-style that reflects the values and principles we stand for. This is how our children evaluate us and we either qualify to become their confidants and friends or we do not, based on their assessment of us. Bad behavior is a symptom of a deeper problem and whether we are able to empathize and evaluate this and to be of help, will depend on the existing relationship.

Khaira starts to speak!

Khaira is just getting so big. It breaks my heart to see her growing so fast, but it's so much fun to see her develop. She's 16 months now . What news is khaira start to follow what ummi says.

Khaira dah pandai follow word kakak, susu, shoes and some simple2 words.
Sebut mama, baba and papa dah lama khaira pandai. Cuma ummi and abi khaira tak tau lagi. Bila ummi mintak khaira says ummi, khaira will says ummma.....so cute :-)
Eventhough she just only had a few words but she understands so much.She understands to all my words..Syukur alhamdulillah..Khaira is a very good girl to me..

The other things is khaira is a good observant. Well...as far as i know..all children is a good observant that's why ada pepatah mengatakan 'melentur buluh biarlah dari rebungnya'. Masa kanak-kanak ni is the best time untuk mengajar. Khaira suka tiru apa yang orang buat.When i took ablution wash, Khaira pun nak buat sama, tapi time kumur khaira pergi telan air pipe..part ni yang ummi tak suka.

Then when i perform solat..Khaira akan sibuk nak solat sama. Ummi memang dah sediakan telekung sembahyang dan sejadah khas untuk Khaira. If possible ummi nak ajar Khaira dari kecil lagi macam mana nak solat. Sometimes ummi nak tergelak pun ada tengok Khaira solat. Turun naik dan rukuk..kemudian ada sujud. Walaupun Khaira tak tahu step lagi at least ummi dah dedahkan Khaira pada perkara paling penting sebagai seorang muslim.

Conclusion yg ummi boleh buat,Khaira suka ikut my routine activities..so pengajaran kat sini, ummi kena lebih berhati2 dengan semua perkara yang ummi buat supaya Khaira tak ikut perkara yang tak elok.

Di secret recipe..

Hari ni ummi post call, so dapat spend masa dgn khaira after 24H ummi tinggalkan khaira.
At 4 pm, ummi bawak khaira gi secret recipe coz ummi dah hungry sangat. Initially plan nak gi mcDonald tapi rasa dah boring sangat makan McD. Dekat area rumah ni, fast food yang ada cuma Mcdonald and secret recipe.

What made me suprised was.. masa dekat secret recipe ada sorang kakak( who was also a customer in secret recipe) tiba2 datang bawakan kek untuk Khaira. Baik betul akak ni....as usual Khaira makan sikit je..sebab tu ummi tak beli untuk khaira, membazir.

Apa yang ummi lagi terkejut, sebelum dia orang keluar dari secret recipe, husband akak tu datang nak salam ngan Khaira tapi khaira tak nak...then uncle tu bagi khaira duit raya RM10. Baik betul couple tu..susah nak jumpa orang macam ni.Thanks uncle.. :-)

Hari Raya 2008

Hari raya tahun ni kita raya kat rumah tok wan dulu then baru balik rumah tok ma. Seronok raya rumah tok wan coz ramai orang, abi has 10 siblings and he is the youngest.Bayangkan betapa ramainya cousin Khaira.Nanti ummi buat carta keluarga abi untuk Khaira so Khaira will know them better.

Well..raya this year banyak mengajar ummi erti kesabaran dan hubungan sesama manusia.Sebagai umat islam, kita tidak boleh ada sifat dendam dan hendaklah sentiasa bersangka baik.So, bawah topic ni ummi nak mengajar Khaira erti hubungan sesama manusia.

Wahai puteriku..Sekiranya suatu hari nanti ada orang berbuat tidak baik pada mu, janganlah kamu cepat melenting sebaliknya bersabar dan sentiasa bermanis muka dan bersikap baik.Sesungguhnya Allah lebih mengetahui apa di hati kita.Sekiranya kamu merasa berdiam diri itu adalah lebih baik, maka berdiam dirilah kamu.Sekiranya tidak..maka carilah jalan penyelesaian untuk meleraikan kekusutan itu dengan cara yang baik.

Rasulullah s.a.w ada bersabda, bermaksud:
"Sesiapa yang ingin dimurahkan rezeki dan dipanjangkan umur, hendaklah dia mengeratkan hubungan silaturahim"

Pelbagai cara boleh dilakukan untuk mengeratkan silaturahim. Contohnya, dengan hormat menghormati sesama Muslim, menghormati dan bermanis muka terhadap tetamu serta jiran tetangga dan ziarah menziarahi dengan niat silaturahim. Semua orang mengakui, bahawa Islam adalah agama persaudaraan, perpaduan dan silaturahim atau agama yang saling menghubungkan kasih sayang sesama Islam, saudara, keluarga dan sesama manusia. Islam agama yang mengatur manusia cara hidup terbaik, hidup bersaudara, bersilaturahim dan bersefahaman.

Firman Allah bermaksud:
"Sebenarnya orang beriman itu adalah bersaudara, maka damaikanlah antara dua saudara kamu (yang bertelingkah) itu, dan bertakwalah kamu kepada Allah supaya kamu beroleh rahmat" (Surah al-Hujuraat, ayat 10)

Nabi ketika ditanya mengenai manusia yang terbaik, menjawab dalam sabdanya bermaksud:
"Orang yang terbaik antara mereka ialah orang yang paling bertakwa kepada Allah. Dan orang yang paling erat hubungan silaturahimnya (sesama keluarga atau saudaranya). Dan orang yang paling banyak mengajak kepada kebaikan serta orang yang paling banyak dalam melarang berbuat kemungkaran.* (Hadis riwayat At-Thabrani).

Inilah asas hidup bersilaturahim atau bersaudara dalam Islam. Manusia tidak boleh hidup bersendiri tanpa keluarga, kawan, sahabat, jiran dan masyarakat. Masyarakat atau umat yang tidak mementingkan hubungan silaturahim adalah masyarakat yang tempang, tiada kekuatan dan jauh daripada keberkatan di sisi Allah.

Maka wahai puteriku Khaira...hendaklah kamu menjaga perhubungan mu sesama manusia.

Ummi doakan semoga Khaira akan menjadi manusia yang disenangi ramai dan diberkati Allah s.w.t

Khaira's favourite

Cheesy Pasta

Bahan2

1) Pasta ( biasanya ummi suka beli yg btk spiral utk khaira)
2) Cheddar cheese ( grated)
3) Mushroom cream
4) Mayyonaise

Cara buat
- rebus pasta hingga lembut
- setelah diangkat, gaulkan bersama mayonis dan mushroom cream
- sebelum di bakar, letak grated cheddar cheese kat bhgn atas then bakar pada suhu 160'C about 10-15 minutes. ( Biasanya ummi tak letak pun cheddar cheese ni coz dia akan jadi keras bahagian atas, khaira tak suka sgt part ni )